Gender for the most part is binary. There are some genetic mutations that will result in something other than XY (male) or XX (female) combinations. But these are rare.
Gender neutral restroom have existed for a long time. Some smaller businesses just create unisex restrooms with a locking door. A couple of these and the restroom situation is solved. More public facing institutions have “family” restrooms in addition to the traditional male/female pair. This too resolves the issues of restrooms. I’ve used these family/unisex restrooms myself when I didn’t feel like using the larger shared and crowded men’s room. It’s nice to get a little privacy now and again.
The problems arise between the transgender groups who want to use one restroom over another and conservative groups due to several false perceptions.
- A transgender person is going to attack, rape, or otherwise assault a member of their new sex.
There is no case of this ever happening. And I don’t think it ever will happen. It is far more likely that the transgender individual will be assaulted when using the restroom associated with their birth gender. Which they fear may happen to them.
- Transgender, transvestite, cross-dresser, drag queen, and transsexual are all the same.
This isn’t true at all. A cross-dresser, drag queen, and transvestite are indeed similar. But they are not the same as a transgender, transsexual person at all.
The first group, all share the commonality of dressing like the opposite sex. Including false breasts if a man is dressing like a woman. But at the end of the day they are still their birth gender and use the same restroom as their birth gender dictates. And do not think they belong to the other gender. It’s just a fancy dress-up party.
I have know a couple of cross-dressers that I have met through work. One did it only when going out to clubs. While the other one did dress-up all day long, even at work. They were both male who dressed as women. And they both used the men’s room because they were men.
A transgender or transsexual person believes that they have been wrongly born in the incorrect sex. And seek to change that through hormonal therapy, behavior modification, dress, and surgery. Including having their sex designations changed on official documentation such as their drivers licence and even their birth certificates.
- People wont lie about being transgender to take advantage of “open” restroom policies in order to sexually prey on members of the opposite sex.
Not all the fallacies come from the conservative side. This one is not really addresses by the transgender side of the equation. And this is why men need to use the men’s room and women need to use the ladies room. These kinds of attacks have already happened with the start of this argument of needing gender neutral facilities.
But trans restrooms or even unisex/family restrooms should not be forced on businesses and institutions. In some there just isn’t the space for a third restroom. The cost of rerouting the plumbing and construction vs the small fraction of the population that is truly transgender just doesn’t justify that kind of cost in money, time, or manpower.